First Days with a New Foster Child
For many parents, fostering a child is a dream come true. You may have rosy visions of how the child will mesh perfectly in your family. While this is probably true, it also takes time to get there. For many children in the foster system, they have lived uncertain lives. Perhaps their own parents haven’t always been present, making them distrustful of adults.
Not only that, but they may have left a home where they were ignored, or worse abused. The child might be separated from siblings and struggling with leaving everything they’ve ever known. All of this requires a transition period. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do in the first days home that will ease this transition time.
Greeting the New Foster Child
The child is likely feeling uncertain and may not even fully understand why he was taken out of his family home. Follow these steps to bring some ease to the situation:
Be in Charge
The new foster child may have arrived from a home that had no rules and where the parents weren’t really in charge. It is important that you make it clear that you are the parent in your home and that you are in charge. Of course, you don’t want to be militaristic about it.
Create a Family Bond
One thing that most foster kids crave is a strong family bond. No matter how much time you have with your new foster child – a few weeks or years – take the time to build family members.